When conflict rears its ugly head and divisiveness looms on the horizon, it’s time to use communication and conflict management skills to come to a resolution that feels better for everyone. Practice reducing reactions, increase your toolbox of what to say (and what not to say), and gain confidence in working to resolve conflict while genuinely improving relationships and interactions. Whether you’re navigating an intimate relationship, a family in need of some extra skills, an organization going through some conflict of your own, or a group/community that is interested in growth-oriented conversation, this workshop is here to help you understand conflict and how it works as well as give you the power to make compromise more comfortable.
Somewhere, sometime, you’ve probably heard someone in the lifestyle talking about the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-IV).The manual is used by mental health practitioners to determine whether or not someone has a mental illness, and, not surprisingly, there is a great deal of controversy surrounding the inclusion of diagnostic criteria for disorders such as masochism and fetishism, as well as diagnoses for gender-related disorders. This workshop will introduce participants to how the DSM is written (and by whom), and will explore real-life issues related to the inclusion of these controversial diagnoses. A brief introduction to basic research principles will be included to help participants become more prepared to provide their voice to the growing body of scholarly research.
Different strokes for different folks - nowhere is that saying more true than for people involved in alternative sexuality communities. But what is it that makes us enjoy those different strokes? Is it possible to develop a better understanding of ourselves and our desires through a traditional personality assessment? In this workshop, participants have the chance to take a personality sorter based on the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI), then learn about different elements of personality and how to improve communication with others – and we all know that better communication makes for better sex! Even if you already know your type, stop by and get some new insight on how personality affects our intimate connections.
This workshop will provide attendees with a deeper and more intentional approach to developing and maintaining powerful relationships based on feminist values such as empowerment, nurturance, connection, and authenticity. The class will introduce attendees to the ways this approach to connection and communication can be applied to a variety of relationships, such as romantic, sexual, friendly, collegial, long-distance, parent-child, and more. Suitable for relationships that involve all genders and sexual orientations, the workshop will address communication principles as well as the ways that we can monitor and improve growth-fostering relationships. All relationships take work, but the dominant relationship models in our society often fail to address how that work takes place. Workshop participants will be presented with specific tools and techniques for fostering empowered, uplifting, and deeply connected relationships.
Regardless of which community (or communities) you’re in, you’ve undoubtedly run across folks that rub you the wrong way or with whom you’ve had bad experiences. In this workshop, you’ll learn how to work with people you don’t like while still maintaining a positive outlook and productive interactions. We’ll talk about communication techniques, how to actively reduce feelings of anger and frustration, letting go of negative past experiences, setting boundaries and practicing self-care, and more – improving your interpersonal relationships and learning to handle recurring conflict can make a huge difference in your life.
When using media to market yourself, it is incredibly important to keep in mind how your online presence is perceived by others. Social media outlets like Facebook, Twitter, Fetlife, Tumblr, blogs, and other applications can go a long way to help you, but when done wrong it can hurt you just as easily. This class will help you navigate the logistics of maintaining multiple profiles, help you use your blog to create and build connections with others, show you how to set up and run your website, and introduce you to a variety of other public profile techniques. For newbies to experienced folks alike, this is a great workshop on branding the most important person: you!
First wave, third wave, or just the concept by itself, Feminism can feel very intimidating to break down, especially with all of the diverse theories around feminism. This class will introduce you to some of the more common types of feminism, including sex-positive feminism, conservative feminism, Black feminism, and radical feminism, as well as the wide variety of beliefs that fall under the overarching umbrella of feminism. In this non-biased workshop, we’ll look at how the right wing has misrepresented feminism, delve into our own beliefs to see where they fit in the spectrum of feminism, and discuss our thoughts about this frequently misunderstood term.
This workshop will cover basic sign-language techniques and vocabulary from American Sign Language, with a focus on lifestyle-related concepts and signs. Kinky Sign Language can be used in a variety of ways – from community events to cruising, from private conversations to private play, this class will offer you a fresh and unique way to communicate with the people around you.
In previous generations, social activists had to take to the streets to make their voices heard. Not anymore – now you can do outrageous amounts of social advocacy while sitting in front of your computer screen. In the last decade enormous political movements have been garnered worldwide attention through the magic of social media. Boycotts, elections, the Arab Spring, the Occupy movement; all of these movements utilized social media to exponentially expand their reach. In this workshop you’ll learn how to use social media to spread your vision, develop an advocacy plan, and connect with other advocates to add power to both your real world and online voice, as well as exploring the power of exponential reach.
The Submissive Striptease Submissives and bottoms are invited to come to The Submissive Striptease, where you will be introduced to the art of the striptease and learn how to use the body and the tease as a gift to your dominant. This workshop will help you find your own rhythm, confidence, and your unique style of body movement, and will teach you tools and tricks to tease and titillate your audience. The class is appropriate for all genders and body types. Dominants and Tops are asked to refrain from attending to allow us to work privately.
Groups interested in delving deeper into specific topics, or who are interested in booking more than one workshop may prefer to do an intensive. The structure and content of intensives are tailored to meet the needs of your organization. If you are interested in learning more about one of these options, please contact me. References available.
A one-day intensive includes six hours worth of education over the course of one day, which can be comprised of up to three different topics or extended session(s) on a specific topic.
A weekend intensive is comprised of ten hours of education held over two days. This can be comprised of up to five, or extended session(s) on specific topics.
Designed for woman-identified participants, ShameLess explores radical body acceptance, burlesque, and the art of the striptease both theoretically and practically, mixing didactic sessions with instruction in dance and movement technique. This workshop is tailored to the needs of the participants, and can range from an afternoon session to a weekend-long intensive. Groups may also arrange to have a showcase of participants’ work at the end of the intensive.
This workshop is comprised of two three-hour sessions that can take place over one day, two days or two consecutive sessions. The first session is an interactive exploration of social issues related to diversity and multiculturalism. Topics include power, privilege, hegemony, understanding “isms”, and other diversity related issues evaluated at the social level.
The second half of the day brings the macro experience into the micro, evaluating how the information discussed in the first half manifest in the BDSM community. Topics include how privilege and power affect community functioning, access to education and play, and how the indiviual experience of the community differs for people with different identities. Additionally, we discuss and evaluate how “isms” are perpetuated in kink and evaluate the concept of “within-community discrimination”.