Category Archives: events

Meeting Marlee

Me, Marlee, and Synn

Last Saturday I had the wonderful opportunity to go to the annual Black Tie Dinner here in Dallas – it’s a fundraiser for the Human Rights Commission, and it’s very fancy and amazing and I would never have been able to afford to go if not for the generosity of my friend Chris Stinnett, who invited Synn and I to accompany him, Jeffrey Payne, David Roy, Dan Perry, and a few other handsome gentlemen to the gala. Also with us, and balancing out my sequins on the other side of the table with her own gorgeous glam, was local goddess and Reigning Empress of the United Court of the Lone Star Empire, Miss Lips Larue. Everyone looked sooo amazing, especially Synn, whose dashing ensemble was carefully coordinated with my dress (so handsome!).

So just getting to go was exciting enough (especially since I finally got to wear my vintage ivory sequin gown) but it turned out that the keynote speaker for the event was Marlee Matlin, who has been a long-time source of inspiration for me and many of my friends and students. The short version of why is this: Continue reading

Firsthand Account of Occupy Oakland

The following is an email I received from my friend Patricia, who lives in Oakland. I have known her for a long time and have always found her to be straightforward, honest, observant, and articulate. I was glad to hear from her and to read a first-person account from someone I trust, so I am re-posting it here with her permission. My deepest thanks to her for both her activism and for her willingness to share her experiences. Continue reading

Ms. Texas Leather Contest Info

Friday August 26

Meet and greet   9:00-11:00      Dallas Eagle
Judges meeting  9:00      Dallas Eagle
Contestant meeting         9:30                 Dallas Eagle
Travel fund auctions       9:00-11:00      Dallas Eagle
Intro and number draw   10:30               Dallas Eagle

Saturday August 27

Interviews                       9:00-12:00      TBA
Bingo                                1:00-3:00        Dallas Eagle
Contestant call             4:00                 Rose Room
VIP party                        6:30-8:00         TMC
Contest                            8:00-10:00      Rose Room
Victory party                10:00-???                Dallas Eagle

 Sunday August 28

Victory Brunch               12:00 noon      Dallas Eagle
Wind down party            3:00 PM         Dallas Eagle

 

Judges

Master Lady Faye                                head judge      IMsL 2006
Sir Jeffrey Payne                          judge               IML 2009
Lamalani Siverts                     judge               IMsL 2009
Hobbit                                     judge               IMsL 2008
Master Ces                              judge               Founder of WILI
Kristen bootblack                    judge               Gulf Coast Community BootBlack 2010
Solitare                                      judge               Ms Southeast Leather Fetish 2006
Master Jimmie Tucker             alternate Judge            South Central Leatherwoman 2006

 

What I Expect From A Keynote Speaker

**editing note** In keeping with the ideas proposed here, I would like to acknowledge that this is my opinion and a list of what characteristics I personally appreciate. In an effort to acknowledge other ways of approaching speeches, I have changed my terminology from “a good speaker” to less restrictive language. I do not mean to assume that my perspective is the only way to be a “good” speaker, so I want to make sure that my language reflects that belief.***

After the long car ride home from Spring Iniquity, during which I spent a lot of time processing the impact of Guy Baldwin’s speech, I stumbled in the door, dropped my purse, and sat down at the computer to write to him. Literally, I didn’t even go to the bathroom first – I was so desperate to get the swirling, nagging thoughts out of my head. It felt really good to get it out, and the community responses have been really helpful at alleviating some of the distress I was (and am) feeling about the whole situation.

It occurred to me, though, that I have never heard a discussion about what a keynote speech should be like. I have served on numerous committees for a variety of events and conferences, both professional and community-based. I have attended tons of conferences (again, both kinky and vanilla), and I have been a guest speaker a number of times. In my experiences as a committee planner, the keynote speaker is typically chosen by a consensus of some sort and given little, if any, information about what might be requested of them.

It occurs to me that this lack of specificity about what qualities make a good speaker, or what the group’s expectations are about the speech itself, does a huge disservice to the planners and attendees of any given conference.  So, I spent some time today thinking about what I, as an audience member, hope to get from a keynote speaker. I also thought about what components I try to attend to when I am a speaker, and I considered what issues a planning committee might want to be sensitive to. What follows is my idea of what makes an effective keynote speaker. They are in no particular order – just some food for thought:

  • I appreciate a keynote speaker that has unique experiences, training, knowledge, or ideas that are worth sharing on a large scale.
  • I think a keynote speaker should know the population(s) who will be attending and be sure to speak fairly and directly to everyone.
  • I believe a keynote speaker should not avoid controversy. A good speaker will tackle difficult issues head-on and will not sugarcoat or minimize potentially inflammatory ideas.
  • I appreciate when keynote speakers are cautious to balance challenging or difficult ideas with positive and hopeful messages.
  • I like keynote speakers who provide a comprehensive, well-rounded explanation about the topic (unless it’s a more personal approach). I like when speakers provide multiple viewpoints and address the complexity that surrounds any given issue. I like it when speakers don’t assume that the audience has prior knowledge, but provide a fair and balanced explanation of the topic.
  • I appreciate a speaker who is careful to choose appropriate, non-judgemental, inclusive terminology. If I hear a speaker using terminology that excludes, denigrates, or ignores certain populations, I am immediately turned off to the message. Some may call it “PC,” I call it awareness and respect.
  • It is nice when a speaker recognizes that her or his own experiences are different from everyone else’s. I think it’s important that they avoid making generalizations or assumptions based on their personal experiences. While personal examples and experiences are highly effective tools when speaking, I think a speaker should acknowledge the limitations of a singular experience and address alternative experiences.
  • I like speakers who demonstrate personal insight – being aware of and acknowledging personal challenges, biases, and privileges. I like speakers who are open and honest about their own personal experiences and the impact of those experiences.
  • I appreciate a speaker who demonstrates social insight. I like when the speaker will attempt to objectively assess the topic from a broader stance and provide listeners with a sense of the wider social impact. I think it’s important to attend to the impact of social systems and, ideally, provide some insight into the community to which they are speaking.
  • I appreciate a speaker who will give concrete ways to move forward, whether that means providing a mechanism for continued dialogue, explaining specific actions that may be taken, or by encouraging listeners to find ways to bring the message into their own lives.
  • I appreciate it when a speaker will back up factual information with evidence. When citing statistics or making claims about certain populations in a factual manner, I think the speaker should be prepared to support those claims.
  • I appreciate when a speaker makes clear when the information presented is based on opinion, observation, or anecdotal evidence.
  • I like a speaker who will make me think, will provide new insight, and will leave me with more knowledge than I had before the speech.
  • I think a keynote speaker should leave me feeling inspired and motivated. I want to leave with a greater sense of connection with the community as well as a desire to seek more connection.

It may seem like a tall order, but isn’t that the point of a keynote speech?

I welcome other ideas and comments.